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So, school starts on the 14th, which is in like 2 weeks. I have to go and sign more papers for financal aid, it’s my award letter or something like that. Anyways, everything is going better for me. Except for the fact that I have to find a new job because when i took my class schedule to Sykes a couple of days ago they didn’t want to work around it.
This has been a short blog but I didn’t have much to say today. Anyways, that’s the update.
Sometimes, I’m amazed how much the internet really does have on it…I’m looking for my father RICHARD DEAN HOLDER. I think it’s amazing it’s taken 19 years to even come up with a name for the guy. I’ve known since I was about 12 that my mom didn’t really know. I’m still not so sure this is the right guy, but if I don’t find him then I may never know. I’ve been searching any and every site on the internet looking for him. But everytime I try I bring up a whole lot of people by that name. The thing is I only know his name his aproximate age of 36-38 and that he lives somewhere in Oklahoma. No one in my family has seen him since I was about 5 and my little brother, who they know for sure is his kid, was about 1 or 2. Anyways, if anyone out there knows a man by the name of Richard Holder who lived in, or around Tulsa, Oklahoma in 1988-1991, and is somewhere around the age of 36-38 then please have him send me an e-mail so that I can find out if he is the right one or not. My e-mail is TifaLockHeart1988@gmail.com or just have him Instant Message me at onthebrinkofinsanity_1989@hotmail.com on msn messager or mountiandewrulez on yahoo messanger. Anyways, that’s it for now.
Update – Thanks pathakhemendra. Since I posted this I have gotten a pretty good lead, on a Richard Holder in Durant, OK. The problem is, the only reason I found this one was because I was checking newspapers, and this guy has just recently been sentenced to 20 years with 10 suspended for sexual assult of a 9 yr. old. It’s just kind of a bubble buster because I have spent my whole life thinking my dad was this great person that my mom just never gave him a chance to but the truth is, he isn’t a nice guy. When I saw that article I found a website that runs criminal background checks and he has quite a few from Tulsa and the surrounding areas around the times me and my little brother were born. I mean if Durant wasn’t so far from where I live I would drive up to the county jail and visit him, but the truth is I don’t really know what I would say, because I don’t know for a fact that it is the right Richard. I actually hope to God that it’s just another dead end, because then it wouldn’t burst my bubble so much. I would just be at the same place I have been, just not knowing.
I’ve had such a great response about my blog yesterday on my friend Talia’s death from a car accident this past Saturday. Thanks to all of you guys for your support it’s nice to know all about you guys stories. She’s not the first friend that I have lost in my 19 yrs of life, when I was 13 I lost my best friend Shawna Bradley in a drunk driving accident. Me and her where both in the car with her mom and her 9 yr old cousin britney and we were only about 3 blocks from her house when a guy ran right into the passanger side of the car. Shawna never made it to the hospital, she died in the ambulance on the way there. I felt horrible because I walked aways with a broken arm and a messed up knee caused from being struck so hard. Her mom walked away with a couple of bruised ribs. Britney was in the seat right next to me and she died on impact. They didn’t know that they guy was druck until a couple days later. What ended up happening to him is when he saw the article in the newpaper a couple of days later and he found out he killed a 9 yr old and a 12 yr old he decided it wasn’t worth it to spend the next 10 yrs or so in prision feeling guilty about it and he drove his car 110 miles an hour in a tree and died on impact. I can tell you that even thought it has been 7 yrs everyone in the small Texas town of Kilgore still misses Shawna and Britney. I just thought I would share this with you to let you know this isn’t the first time this kind of sadness has happened to me in my 19 yrs of life. Because of this I have been an active member of SADD (Students against Drunk Driving) since I was in the 7th grade. I feel that by being apart of them I can help prevent this from happening to other people. I made a pact to myself that yr that I would never drink and drive no matter what the reasons because I know what the consquences of it are.
When I opened the newspaper I was really shocked, well shocked doesn’t even say it. I found out that one of the people that I went to job corps with that lived in my hometown died in a car accident on Saturday. Her name was Talia Harvey, she was only 18, other then just going to job corps with me she was also one of my very first roommates when I got there, in fact the first room that I got put into she was the only one that was nice to me. I mean we weren’t exactly friends but not enemies either. I think it’s weirder because she also worked at the same place as me, she was still in training so I didn’t really see her at work very much but me and her would take break or lunch together every once in a while. Its also really weird because this is the second person that worked at Sykes that has died in a car accident just since I started working there in April. The first one was a Manger named Chris Thomas, he was 30 and had 2 kids. But anyways, I just think it’s weird because both of the people who have recently died in car accidents, it has been there fault, Chris was going 120+ on a dirt road and flipped his car and died before anyone could find him because it was out in the middle of nowhere, and Talia ran out in front of another vechicle and got it ran right into the driver’s side and died at the scene, and sent another girl to the hospital in critical condition. Anyways, I just had to get that out there.
<Below is an article on Talia’s accident that is from http://www.kswo.com/Global/story.asp?S=8704182 >
One killed in Kay county collision
Associated Press – July 20, 2008 1:15 PM ET
BLACKWELL, Okla. (AP) – An 18-year-old woman is dead following a collision in Kay County.
The Oklahoma Highway Patrol identified the victim as Talia Harvey of Ponca City. The patrol says she was pronounced dead at the scene of the crash.
Troopers say the crash occurred at 5:10 p.m. yesterday on U.S. Highway 177 two miles south of Blackwell. Harvey’s vehicle had stopped at a stop sign at an intersection but failed to yield to an oncoming vehicle, pulling into its path.
The second vehicle struck the victim’s car on the driver’s side door, and the victim was pinned in the wreckage for about an hour.
<Below is Talia’s obituary that was posted in the Ponca City news paper and at http://poncacitynews.com/templates/obits/340939235567469.bsp >
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Talia Rochelle Harvey, resident of Ponca City, was taken from this earth to live with God on Saturday, July 19, 2008, as a result of an auto accident. She was 18. Talia was born March 18, 1990. Her enjoyments included boxing, basketball, her family and friends. Talia had a heart of gold. She is survived by her mother, Alicia C. Harvey of Rushville, Neb.; her adopted parents, Jerry and Rhonda Arnold of Ponca City; her brothers, Zachery Chadoe Toahty-Harvey of Langston and Glenn Chadana Toahty-Harvey of Tulsa; her sisters, Tiana Henreyetta Toahty-Harvey of Ponca City, Rayleen, Roxanna and Faith Arnold, of the home; one little brother, Maxwell R. Arnold, also of the home; two small nephews; and many other family members and friends. She will always be grateful for coach Ken Luttrel, a true and faithful friend and trainer. She was preceded in death by her grandmother, Ursula C. Harvey; great-grandmother, Birdie-N-Koshiway Gawhega; and great-grandfather, Raymond C. Gawhega. A prayer service will be held at 7 p.m. Monday, July 21, at the Otoe-Missouria Tribal Center. A noon feast will be held Tuesday, July 22, at the Tribal Center with the funeral to follow at 2 p.m. Interment will be in Otoe-Missouria Cemetery under the direction of Grace Memorial Chapel. A memorial fund in Talia’s memory has been set up at the Bank of Oklahoma, 110 South Main, Newkirk, Okla. 74647 for the Salvation Army Boxing Club. A special appreciation goes out to Oklahoma Highway Patrol Trooper, N. Oliver 592. paid obituary
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So, I’m getting pretty close to getting too many “points” at work. What I mean is Sykes runs on a point system for schedule adherance, basically you get a point for each day that you call in, but it’s only 1 point if you call in conscutively for the same thing, you get half a point if you miss 4 hours or less, or if you are more then 10 minutes late coming back from lunch or getting there, or if you go over even one second on your 15 minute breaks, and you get 3 points for each no call, no show. Well you can only get 10 of these points before they fire you, and now your told all of these when you first start there but what they don’t tell you is that you will get pointed if you stay in something like research for more then 5 minutes every 2 hours, go into break more then twice in one day even if it’s not going over they amount you get. So by the time you add all of this up I pretty sure I have something along the lines of 7 points, and now that they won’t let you work overtime to get rid of the points like they used to the only way to get rid of them is to go 2 weeks without being pointed for anything and they drop off a half point or make it a year from the day you got it. Let’s just put it this way, most of the time I don’t even know when I was pointed for but I can contest them because I have before and they just come up with something like me being in research for too long even though I was still technically doing my job because I was figuring someones account out before I called them back, but they use it as a reason or that I was in callback mode and didn’t have a reason to be, please explain how they would know that since they aren’t the department who listens in on our calls. Oh, but on that subject when I first got on the floor I was making perfect quality scores and now I’m getting 75 and 76 which isn’t even passing, because they say I’m saying something wrong and giving me where I can look it up but when I do I can’t find what the hell there even talking about. At this moment I am contesting getting marked off for my closing on my past 2 qualities because I know that what I said isn’t wrong because I looked it up and it doesn’t say I can’t say it like that. Anyways, I just don’t know how much longer it will be before they fire me for points because of the way I raked them up the last couple of weeks without even meaning to. Anyways, I’m getting off.
Ok, so it’s not technically my computer. I’m renting it from this rent-to-own place and in the end it’s gonna cost me something around $2000 and YES that’s a lot compared to the $800 that I spent on the last one but..the problem is it was either this, go without a computer for a long time or buy a desktop for $300 which is over half of what I make on ONE paycheck…Well the way I look at it I can afford it more this way because when I called my computer repair guy he told me it would cost around $400 to replace the screen in my monitor, and according to what he said the reason that it did what it did was because the liquid in the LCD screen started separting. He said he’s seen it happen before in a lot of the cheaper computers, but that more of the top-of-the-line ones don’t do it. Anyways, Caity’s finally over the whole me telling her mom about her plan to runaway. Of course it might have to do with the fact that she just found out that the student government for all of the job corps around the nation are going to this big thing in Washington D.C and that they have a flight at 6 am. She’s not only excited because it’s one of the few places in the country that she hasn’t been to but also because one of our good friends is in student government in guthrie and since all of them are gonna be there she will get to see her for the first time since she left job corps something like 3 1/2 months ago. But still even though she swears she’s the same old Caity I have this weird feeling that she has something planned and that she had planned on her mom sending her back right in time for the annual student government trip to D.C. Considering that her dad lives something like 200 miles from there and that if she was hiding out with daddy then that would be the last place her mom would ever think to look for her and she could just spend the next 7 months there and then her mom wouldn’t be able to make her come back even if she was to find out where she was. Dang, maybe my mom is right, I am really starting to think that I do worry about other people in my life just a little bit to much anymore. My mom seems to think it’s because since I lost the baby worrying about other people makes it easier for me to make it through the day, and some days I think that she’s probably right. Because when my sister was in the hospital a couple of days ago I really did start to freak and then after a couple of days it turned out that she was just fine and they sent her home. I’m not really sure why I do it I just know that that’s my thing these days. Worrying about other people to keep my own sanity that is. But then somedays I don’t think I’m sane. Losing the baby has really made me rethink everything in life. I mean when I was filling out my last few papers for school in the days right after the miscarriage I thought about changing my mind about what I was taking a good 10 or 20 times. Then yesterday I had to go and get my schedule for classes and clinicals and I found out that my first routation of clinicals is in the matarity ward at the local hospital and I just don’t know if I will be able to handle 3 months around newborns and also at this hospital here they also have the peds ward on the same floor so pretty much you work with every age of child from newborn to 17. I mean I could get it changed if I really wanted to but then again I do love the thought of helping all the kids, I mean that is the main reason I have always wanted to go into the medical field was to work with kids and now I get my chance and I am rethinking it. What is wrong with me, and will I ever be normal again. But anyways that’s my thoughts and the update for now.
So, Caity took a plane back to Cali yesterday. I’m not sure what she is gonna do but knowing her it will probably have something to do with running away from treasure island job corps. I mean it wouldn’t be as hard as running away from guthrie because san fransisco is an open campus and they can pretty much come and go as you please. Guthrie on the other hand unless your 21 and over or have what’s called a platinum card then you can’t leave unless you get permission from about 12 people except for what’s called weekend pass which basically means what it is called. It gives you the weekend off campus but you have to know the address of where you are going to be and the person you are staying with. It’s a lot easier for a person over 18 to get a weekend pass because as long as you have it in by Tuesday and aren’t on any kind of restriction then they will approve it but if your a minor they have to call your parents and get there permisson for you to go there and you have to know who is driving the car so that they can tell your parents and get the a-okay from them. Personally I was always glad that I was 18 when I first got there because I never had to deal with the problems of that. But I do have a lot of friends who weren’t adults and a couple of them have gotten weekend passes to come to my house and its’ pretty difficult. Anyways, the reason her mom made her go back to cali was because she thought it would be good for her but I can definatly tell you she isn’t going to stay there and even if she does make it until march when she turns 18 she won’t stay after that and her mom won’t be able to make her. Anyways, on another note my laptop decided to me weird today and went off by itself and then when I finally did get it to come back on there is this weird thing on the screen that won’t go away. I’m gonna end up taking it back to the shop, what totally bits is I just spent 200 dollars getting the hard-drive fixed a couple of weeks ago. If this costs a lot I will end up just getting another computer and not using my other one. Anyways, that’s the update and rant for now.
So, to explain the title. Caity’s mom drove all the way from Arkansas to pick her up because I did the adult thing and told her mom that she didn’t plan on going back and that when she found out that my mom was going to make her go back on Saturday she was going to take the bus to some other town and just meet up with any guy she could find. When she found out that plan might not work she decided she was going to meet a guy on plentyoffish.com dating site who is like 27. Well when I told her mom about he other plan, she freaked and she left right after she got off work and came and got her. She also brought the police with her because everytime it comes to her mom making her do something she doesn’t want to do she ends up running away so the cops just explained to her that this so called loop hole in the system that she was telling her mom made it so that she didn’t have to go home if she didn’t want to had been fixed 2 years ago and that now the law says that until the day you turn 18 in Oklahoma they can make you go back home. So anyways I talked to Caity on the phone yesterday and her mom showed her the email I sent to her so now my best friend is mad at me for doing what I thought was the right thing to keep her out of the line of danger. Anyways on another note, one of the kitten’s I got a couple of weeks ago, Chloe, died last night. I’m not sure what exactly was wrong with her but I do know that I tried to get an appointment with the vet a couple of days ago and they said they couldn’t get them in until Tuesday. Well I’m still taking my other kitten, Max, just to make sure nothing is wrong with him. Anyways, that’s the update for now.
Ok, so in the last post it was all about my hatred of the greyhound bus station well what turned out happening is Caity got a motel room in Kansas City, Mo and she called the front desk and asked them to give her a 430 am wake up call so that she could make her 6 am bus to oklahoma. Well turns out they never called her and she woke up thirty minutes after her bus left. I rememeber the phone call about that one she was so pissed because of it and because of the fact that they went on to tell her that if she took the next bus she wouldn’t get in until 1130 pm and that if she wanted oklahoma any earlier she would have to go to OKC and as I mentioned in the last entry I don’t drive in OKC…insane drivers and its a super long story that I don’t really want to go into…anyways on with the story when she called me to basically rant and rave and tell me about it I asked her to ask them when the next bus to withcia kansas got in and they said 445 which was a whole lot better then the 1130 one so I told her to transfer her ticket and I would find a way to get there because I HATE big city traffic. Anyways 86 miles, 3 hours and 1 time of getting super lost in whitca, kansas I finally did make it to the bus station but since her bus was running late, as per usual when it comes to the bus system in this country, it didn’t get in at 445 like it was supposed to it was closer to 505, but what I don’t get is that she said that they left on time and make only the necessary stops in between, how in the hell did they manage to still be late, that i will probably never ever figure out. But anyways it’s super late and I’m going the hell to sleep…plus I’m pretty sure no one wants to hear anymore ranting about the greyhound bus station and how fucked up it was that my best friend spent 18 in kansas city, mo when she was supposed to be her in ten hours all because one bus was three hours late leaving.
